So many people asked ‘ who’s the dad’ when we announced our pregnancy, even the midwife at our first appointment who asked for his number and everything. They were so unprepared for a same sex couple, even though this was at Kings college in London. We were also unprepared in how to respond, which lead to us having a really important conversation about the difference between ‘dad’ and ‘donor’ and how important it was to us and how unimportant it seemed to be for other people!
A colleague found out I had a wife while I was already very noticeably pregnant, and after an initial shock and 5 minutes of 'OHs', he just went and asked: 'so it was artificial?' 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ To which I answered 'My baby is definitely very real, but yeah, we did need some help from the doctors, if that's what you're asking'
I’ve thought of another well meaning yet awful comment: “are you worried she’ll be bullied at school?”
So many people asked ‘ who’s the dad’ when we announced our pregnancy, even the midwife at our first appointment who asked for his number and everything. They were so unprepared for a same sex couple, even though this was at Kings college in London. We were also unprepared in how to respond, which lead to us having a really important conversation about the difference between ‘dad’ and ‘donor’ and how important it was to us and how unimportant it seemed to be for other people!
this is madness! How are major London hospitals not better trained?! Glad it lead to you having some important chats though
A colleague found out I had a wife while I was already very noticeably pregnant, and after an initial shock and 5 minutes of 'OHs', he just went and asked: 'so it was artificial?' 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ To which I answered 'My baby is definitely very real, but yeah, we did need some help from the doctors, if that's what you're asking'
Oh god! Great response though